A Circle Of Love
There is no doubt that each young woman, when faced with an unplanned pregnancy, may be experiencing many challenges. Some women do not have jobs, some may not be financially able to parent, some are still in school and still want to be a teenager, some are in a...Birthmother’s Day: A Holiday to Honor Our Sacrifices
Mother’s Day has been something I’ve secretly loathed since placing my daughter for adoption. It can feel like a constant yearly reminder that I don’t have a daughter anymore and can be incredibly painful, not only the day itself, but the weeks...
The Grey Areas of Adoption: Inclusion
While pregnant, and when I made the choice to place my daughter for adoption, I chose placement so that I might have the opportunity to build a fresh start, one where I could prepare myself for when I would be ready for a family. I never considered the weight that...
Confessions Of A Birth Mothers Mom
There are moments in our lives when we do not think anyone will understand what we are going through. We are suddenly experiencing symptoms like a missed period, nausea, craving certain foods and feeling extra tired. You first think you are coming down with a “bug,”...
Perceptions of Pregnancy and Placement: The Rest of Our Lives After Adoption
Most of what I recall from my pregnancy is in retrospect. I have my journals and certain memories that I can use to reflect on the past, but that was nearly five years ago from where I am now. New experiences and encounters have mixed with the old feelings that I had...
Perceptions of Pregnancy and Placement: 9 Months of Pondering
My pregnancy was not orthodox by any means. I never had a round belly like most pregnant women. Because of my stature, I never appeared pregnant visibly to most people. In many ways, this proved to be a blessing to me and my own mental sanity. Since I was so over...
Choosing Adoption: Taking a Step Back to Consider What You Want.
The day that adoption came into my mind as an option for my daughter’s future, I recall googling, “Adoption agencies near me”. So many links to different agencies popped up, I was overwhelmed by the number of options available. A quick glance at several pages of...
Battling the Grief of Placement & Finding Your Voice
Writing after placement has given me a lot of closure. I didn’t begin writing immediately after my daughter’s adoption took place; I would journal from time to time, but never consistently. For months after resigning my rights to be her mother, I couldn’t write much,...